To you who don't know what pms is, it's like a wound that bleeds continuously. And the most you could do is put a bandage around it, but that's about it- and you have to keep changing your bandage because the bleeding doesn't just stop there.. some people take pain killers, but then again.. there's nothing you can do about it. The wound is more like in your stomach, if you want to explain the feeling of it.. and the bleeding is internal, and you can't stop the bleeding. It bleeds for a couple of days to as long as a week, or slightly over a week- you can never predict.
Here's the two worst things about pms for me personally, (not sure about the rest, though- do post your comments) :
- Stomach Cramps (normally only the first day, and you may lose your appetite along with it; but if you have been sleeping early and eating your veggies, you may be spared the stomach cramps, and gain a flippin' large appetite for food :)
- Laundry (yep.. no catch here- just plain washin' and scrubbin' in the wee hours of the morning)
- Overstraining (don't know what it's called, but its pain when we don't sit down enough and walk or stand too much.. so we need to take breaks.. like sit down every now and then in the shopping malls.. its very much what happens when you shove a towel into the tap hole and try to on it.. that's what it feels like.. so when you stand up a long time, the gravity pulls the blood downwards.. gravity can be merciless and it is painful when it is over strained, you've just got to sit down and then everything will be alright.. don't stand too long- don't over strain yourself)
You want to know the truth? Girl's mood swings are not the worst during their pms,.. It's worse just a couple of days before the period- when the girl is unprepared for it and doesn't know what hit her- she just goes through an emotional wreckage with no explanation whatsoever until she gets her pms, and then she goes something like.. "Oh.. darn.. no wonder.. should have known better."
Possible mood swings are as follows:
- Loneliness
- Sadness (over almost anything)
- Low self confidence
- Anger/ getting irritated easily
- Others.. can't think of them right now, but I think you get the picture.. they're all negative, anyways. It depends on the girl's personality- I think I'm more a melancholic and choleric, so I go more towards those two extremes.. It's obvious, isn't it? 1-3 are melancholic attributes, whereas number 4 is more on the choleric side.. scared of me? ahah.. you bet! The maids get it most of the time, though.. I don't dare scold anyone else. You know DISC? Well, I'm D and S- bad combination, huh? I'm not a C kind of person.. but it would be kinda fun to watch them worry like nuts for no apparent reason.. Let's talk a bit about personalities..
Melancholic
a person who was a thoughtful ponderer had a melancholic disposition. Often very kind and considerate, melancholics can be highly creative - as in poetry and art - but also can become overly pre-occupied with the tragedy and cruelty in the world, thus becoming depressed. The temperament is associated with the season of autumn (dry and cold) and the element earth. A melancholy is also often a perfectionist, being very particular about what they want and how they want it in some cases. This often results in being unsatisfied with one's own artistic or creative works and always pointing out to themselves what could and should be improved.Choleric
Choleric corresponds to the fluid of yellow bile, the season of summer (dry and hot), and the element of fire. A person who is choleric is a doer and a leader. They have a lot of ambition, energy, and passion, and try to instill it in others. They can dominate people of other temperaments, especially phlegmatic types. Many great charismatic military and political figures were cholerics. On the negative side, they are easily angered or bad tempered. In folk medicine, a baby referred to as having "colic" is one who cries frequently and seems to be constantly angry. This is an adaptation of "choleric," although no twentieth/twenty-first century scholar or doctor of medicine would attribute the condition to bile. Similarly, a person described as "bilious" is mean-spirited, suspicious, and angry. This, again, is an adaptation of the old humour theory "choleric."
Check this stuff out in wikipedia - http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Phlegmatic
Humour | Season | Element | Organ | Qualities | Ancient name | Modern | MBTI | Ancient characteristics |
Blood | spring | air | liver | warm & moist | sanguine | artisan | SP | courageous, hopeful, amorous |
Yellow bile | summer | fire | gall bladder | warm & dry | choleric | idealist | NF | easily angered, bad tempered |
Black bile | autumn | earth | spleen | cold & dry | melancholic | guardian | SJ | despondent, sleepless, irritable |
Phlegm | winter | water | brain/lungs | cold & moist | phlegmatic | rational | NT | calm, unemotional |
Okay, so I got distracted,.. excuse me.
So well.. now you know that when she behaves extremely melancholic out of a sudden, and she is NOT having her pms, it only means that there is a high possibility that her pms is only a couple of days away.. and when it does come, she'll be more or less okay.. because by then she'll know what to expect.
So what do you do when she starts screwing up? Ahah.. this all depends on what kind of girl you have, but I highly suggest you remain supportive if she is melancholic, and.. well.. cooperative if she is choleric.. I'm sorry to burst your bubble, guys.. but girls cannot get more upset than when they are having their mood swings.
They will totally realize what they said and did when it is all over. And if you were supportive and cooperative, well.. they'll most probably thank you if not in their hearts.. and well.. let's say that they are fully aware of their surroundings, and aren't drunk, so some of these moments can last a lifetime, if you know what I mean- people remember them.
So in all cases, always, I repeat always remain calm. And use your brain, because someone has to be sane around here.. and if it's not you, then who? So think positive, be understanding, supportive and cooperative. Don't shoot back, fight back, scold back, discourage, or condemn them in any way. Sounds simple, no? =D You'll get the hang of it..
Let me give you a tip- you wanna keep them happy, aite? So keep feeding them chocolate.. it works sometimes, well at least when they're with you ;)
That's all for now. Well, all the best, guys~! Lemme know what problems you're facing, and I'll try to help out..
* tRUST & OBey the LORD *
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