The real reason why I don’t want to go to the dentist is not the bill or even the pain. What I dread the most is actually the lecture. No matter which dentist I go to, I will get lectured for not taking care of my teeth — basically, for being irresponsible. I don’t know if it’s just me — maybe I look young — or does everyone else get lectured? I’m sure if dentists around the world would learn to compliment a little bit more for anything at all, people wouldn’t mind coming more regularly.
That’s probably the same reason why people dislike driving classes. You’re paying someone to tell you your faults. I guess that’s a good thing — maybe that’s love and care — I suppose it is, but isn’t there a better way?
And do I torture my kids and family the same way with lectures? Because it is supposed to be good and meant well but is it really working or does that push people away? And if that is love and care which pushes people away, then it’s not effective, is it?— rather the opposite.
Good intentions are never good enough. The approach is very important. If we really mean well, we should consider a more effective solution that actually makes a difference. That’s true love and care.
Spare the lectures; focus on praise and compliments and notice the results. Sounds ridiculous but at least it works.
Yes, even adults need praise.
* tRUST & OBey the LORD *
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